vett,

you may not think you have that wisdom but you really do. You are human and are entitled to make mistakes, it's how you learn from those and put them to use. That is why I say you have such great wisdom. Even if things are beyond repair with your ex doesn't mean that it was all your fault--it takes two to make it work and it also takes two to destroy it. Remember--tomorrow is a new day!

Hugs
jac