Hi, I am brand-new here. I "joined" yesterday and posted a few posts to the "Psychotherapy" section. Then, this morning, I got some devastating news and am so upset.

Here's the situation. I am currently in therapy due to relationship issues (specifically, my husband has cheated on me and we're trying to work thru this mess). My best friend in the whole world called me this morning to tell me that her husband feels that I am a bad influence on her and their family since I am trying to work on my marriage instead of divorcing my husband (we've been married 14 years w/ 2 young kids). He thinks that I am allowing myself to be treated like a doormat and he doesn't want that kind of influence on his family. Keep in mind that I only found out about this affair one month ago and am still reeling with the shock and trying to figure out what I am doing.

I am devastated as I am losing my closest friend in a time where I am EXTREMELY needy. I am also angry that he would feel this way and also that SHE would allow him to dictate to her who her friends should be. I am just trying to keep my family together. Shouldn't friends support you? I feel so alone right now.

We have been close friends for 4 years - our kids are the same age, our families have socialized for years, we have lunch several times a week, get our hair and nails done at the same place, etc. Now what do I do?