i do understand. it's very easy for all of us to tell you to ditch him but of course it's much harder to actually do. i hope things do calm down for both of you. yeah, it's always good to see how someone's family is as that can likely tell you how they will treat you. either that or they do the exact opposite. my family is very traditional but that was all before the 60s. i just read something that said women are less happy than they were 30 or 40 years ago. we have a lot more freedom but it seems we have so many more responsibilities too. i am pretty much just not able to do it all so any guy with me will have to help out quite a bit. that's my story and i'm sticking to it. and i always say men who cook are sexy.