Hi NeedtoRelax,

Very sorry to hear that your husband has cheated on you, and hope that you and him are able to resolve your problems with proper counseling etc.
However, my concern is how you feel about how your friend, and how 'her husband' feels about you. You said that your friends husband "Feels" as though you are a bad influence! He has a right to Feel anyway he wants to. And that is his problem! I feel as though I'd like to win a million dollars, but my feelings aren't going to make that come true. I don't mean to sound harsh, but really, I think you should, at this point, seperate the situations between friends, and family. Family problems come first!, and secondly, how good a friend is she, if she is so quickly influenced by her husband?
I'm sure that you have millions of emotions running through your head, but by prioritizing them as to which is the most important first, and working on them first, and put friends 2nd may help you sort through your problems. Also, very close family members are better to turn to then a 'very good friend'!
Hope this helps in someway, but I just had to add my positive thoughts. Hang in there, and with support, you will come through this ok!
Sincerely,

SongBird