Hello neednewlife and welcome to PC...

When I read your post I am so filled with sadness for you and your children. The challenges ahead of you all are large but with a Mom who is seeking answers you all have more than a fighting chance.

There are no majic wands or simple answers to your question. It will be hard,,that is all I know.

But,,,it will pass as all pain does with time.

Set your mind on doing things that need to be done for you and the children and the one on the way..Keep your health up...your unborn needs a good start.

Be task orientated,,keep busy,,keep communiating with freinds and family,,,and us...

Get a lawyer...a good one to protect your family....meet with him/her to build a plan...be involved..

Somewhere along this greiving process anger will raise its ugly head...use it but don't let it use you....Anger can be a great motivator but it can also turn us into cynical mean spirited people...You have a right to be angry at what is happening,,,but no right to take this anger and move it to your children, friends or other loved ones...

Think about therapy for you and your children...a breakup of this kind,,unless guided by a professional theraputic guide, can have long harmfull ramifications...

Please keep commnicating and keep letting your children know that they are Loved and this is not their fault..

With Care,

Lenny