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Sep 27, 2009, 04:07 PM
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Member Since: Feb 2007
Location: Florida
Posts: 1,611
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 with what Lenny had to say. Separating emotionally from another person is a process and a difficult one. It takes time. I have found that concentrating on the here and now, breaking time down into hours or half days, helps me keep my focus on what I need to do and take care of NOW.
That of course starts with your children and unborn child, yourself and moves on to work, family and friends. Some hours or days you won't get past taking care of yourself or your children. That's okay. As time goes on you'll learn more coping skills and be able to encompass all the important aspects of your life.
Outside of getting along with the father of your children for their sake, you don't need to consider him or his feelings further than that. The less you think about and dwell on him the better off you and your children will be. If he's a good father, let him be one. If not, do whatever is in the best interests of your children and yourself.
I do hope you will seek some professional help - seek out all the help and all the supportive people you can during this very difficult time in your life. Take good care of yourself. And remember that this time will pass and you will be happy again, especially if you are always trying to do the next right thing.
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