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Sep 27, 2009, 05:10 PM
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Member Since: Aug 2009
Location: Fringes of the bell-shaped curve
Posts: 779
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Originally Posted by deedee184
Hey, JerryMichele,
I got your e-mail address and will use it. I had a pretty good day, until about a half an hour ago when I was getting ready to go out and my ex answered the phone and had about a 20 minute conversation with the other woman, right in front of me, and the kid.
It breaks my heart when I hear the tone in his voice, and the laughter, they way he used to talk to me, and it's like they know everything about each others lives, and I don't know anything that goes on anymore. He was even telling her if she wants they can get together later. He is just so inconsiderate. He knows I know who he's talking to, and I'm pretty sure his son does too. I HAVE TO GET OUT OF THIS HOUSE and SOON!!!! It is killing me. How do I let go and not care anymore.
Deedee
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(((((Deedee))))) - Absolutely unbelieveably outrageous and cruel behavior on his part!! Does he realize that he is teaching his son to be the very same way? To be so cruel and disrespectful to others? How do you let go and not care anymore? You only have to let go of him and his son specifically, Deedee - not your hope, your dream of having a loving, trusting, mutually-respectful relationship with someone - don't ever let go of those hopes and dreams. Simply understand that he is NOT qualified for the job. He is not capable of fulfilling that role and you cannot afford to play that mind game of trying to fit him into it. Right now he is within your line of sight, he is the current object of your affection, he is the physical representation of your hopes and dreams, but you have to realize that he does not and cannot epitomize the qualities you want in a relationship - and he most certainly does not deserve the kind of love you are capable of giving. Don't throw your pearls before swine - you must find someone who recognizes and values the love you have to give - you must find someone who cherishes you. Just because this person does not and/or cannot cherish you that does not mean that you are not worth cherishing - you ARE! Don't sell yourself, your love, or your life short, Deedee. See this man for who and what he really is and rid yourself of him. As I've said before, I have been THERE - and the only thing I regretted afterwards was that I wasted so much time, energy, love, and tears on someone who did not deserve any of it - someone who took my most precious possessions (my self and my love) and threw them away - someone who was incapable of cherishing me as I did him. I hope you can get out of there soon - that is a toxic environment and only serves to poison you a piece at a time. Please keep posting, Deedee - we will provide all the support we can.   
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