[quote=bloom3;1150179]((((((((blue))))))) i am so not calling you bm!
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OK, but Im sure there will be some days when it will fit.......
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i know everyone is different so it sounds like you need to find what would work the best for you. if it were me i'd do a phone call or letter but that is because i abhor confrontation. a letter, even if you don't send it, can really help you figure out what you want to say as well. but then you have to think if it would be harder for you to send it and not get any response. would that drive you nuts?
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It might be a good idea to write it even if I dont intend on sending it. To figure out what I would say.
The truth is, I had a lousy day, my kids were cranky, everyone was demanding a piece of me and when I got home my h was all over me about something I thought he should just leave me alone about. It made me feel like he doesnt care about me either. No one cares- its just about what I can do for everyone else. A lot of days are like that but today was really bad. And I was thinking about how my t (desk t) really understood me about what goes on in the house and with h. She is always on my side. I wanted to see her, talk with her and complain to her. She understands who my h is. The thought of saying goodbye to her makes me want to hide and not do this. On the other hand, she cant help me with the other issues. I feel depressed.
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a phone call might be a good compromise so you're able to get feedback but it will most likely be fairly brief so she won't be able to affect you as much if she's acting like a big poop in the sky.
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She really can act like a big poop in the sky. And she might even act poop-like if I complain about my h and kids (who I didnt set firm enough boundries with and so she will blame it all on me.....saying"(my name) it is ALL YOUR FAULT, you dont have any boundries."
I cant imagine seeing her...and I cant imagine not seeing her......Im in a lousy mood.....my h can do that. My mood will change fromone minute to the next depending on his mood and now I have no t to talk to. Is there a husband complaint board on PC?
I guess, Bloom, you have said it all right there. There is good and bad with her. I am so grieving the loss of who I want her to be. What I really want is for her to call me with caring in her voice and not talk to me about her schedule and holding appointments. I want her to ask me why I am not coming in and to ask me how things are. But she wont. I cant seek out these crumbs from her. I do like ftt. I wish we had an established relationship already. I need a caring t. And I need it today
