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Sep 28, 2009, 08:56 AM
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Member Since: Jul 2009
Location: Phoenix, AZ, USA
Posts: 2,779
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Hi, superloner,
I think I might have an insight or two for you.
First, even if you are "broken up" and this guy is your ex, emotions are hard to simply turn off. You can officially be broken up, but your emotions can't be turned off with a switch. They take more time. So they are still pretty much in love with him.
Second, since this is the first guy that you've ever been in love with, you might be feeling pretty vulnerable, at least, moreso than any other relationship you might have had before. Therefore, there's more of you at stake. You have more feelings invested. It is more risk. Also, the jealousy means that you are not secure in your relationship. Not so much in his feelings for you, but in your feelings about you; how you feel about your ability to make him happy and to "keep" him interested and in love with you. It has more to do with your self-esteem than anything else. A woman who is confident in herself and can stand and exist on her own outside of the relationship she has with a man is less likely to feel jealousy.
In particular, the concerns you have over his communications with any female, even his relatives, those are indicative of serious security issues. This would be something you could greatly benefit from exploring with a therapist. The greatest aphrodesiac is self-confidence.
I hope this has helped a little. Hang in there. 
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 Vickie
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