I need help... my wife suffered abuse at the hands of her ex-husband, and sometimes she has flash-backs. What is the easiest way to deal with this?
it is like she is talking to someone else...angry outbursts...talking to me like I am the one that tried to kill her, and tortured her.... So far, I have been letting her get it out, and not taking those things she says to heart, then afterwards, when she realizes what she has done, she is so sorry and remorseful and I just hold her through it. I let her talk all about how she was feeling, and what was going through her mind when she freaks out. Over the last 6 months, she is doing so much better. She was betrade by everyone when she was married to this monster, family, friends, and even a counselor, and they cause more problems in her life. So she has big trust issues with everyone except me. I feel overwhelmed sometimes, because now I can see the signs of one of her episode coming on... am I doing the right thing? Is there more ways I can help her talk about all the bad things, because she talks more about what happened to her, right after these blow ups... She is controlling it more...
How can I be the best husband I can be? I hate to see her go through all of this, but from everything I have read, this is a journey only she can make, and she has chosen me to be her anchor...all your help will be appreciated...I love her so much, and just want her to be free...