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lynn09 · Sep 28, 2009, 05:26 PM

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Originally Posted by deedee184

Lynn09,
thanks for the advice. To answer your question, ABSOLUTELY NOT! I stopped cooking, cleaning up after him, or babysitting his son when he said we were through. He and his ex-wife have joint custody of him, and she only lives a couple of blocks away from us, so he goes home.

You want to hear something ever more strange about this whole situation, this mutual friend that my ex is having an affair with used to be his ex-wife's best friend before she married my ex, and when they got divorced this mutual friend stayed friends with my ex and stopped talking to his ex-wife. WHAT'S WRONG WITH THAT PICTURE? I talk to his ex-wife and she knows what is going on with her, and she told me that she asked this girl why she would really want to be with him after knowing what he's done to me and her in the past, and she says she can't help it, she's falling in love with him, but she doesn't want to leave her boyfriend of 16 years. I feel like I'm stuck in a soap opera. Anyway, hopefully I can get a few friends together to help me move my stuff and get the heck out of here. I know it's going to be hard once I leave, but it can't be any worse than this.

Deedee

So glad to know that you are not babysitting his son, or cooking, or cleaning for him, (((Deedee))) - shows that you still have a pretty solid core of self-respect there. As for the rest, you really are on a dysfunctional "musical mates" amusement park ride! You have got to get off that ride and out of the park as fast as you can. Frankly, I don't think it's going to be that hard for you once you leave and are finally away from all that chaos, confusion, drama, and dysfunction - you might even feel that peace and quiet are boring after that experience, but you'll adjust in time - just don't allow yourself to be drawn back into their or anyone else's mess. Please keep posting.