First of all,

This is tough, tough stuff. I agree with your dr, that now is not a good time to wean off antidepressants! I am not sure why your T would suggest that for you at such a difficult time in your life. Perhaps he had his reasons -- maybe you should ask why?

I know if it were me I would not be ready to do trauma work until the divorce was final and my life was somewhat stable, in some kind of routine I felt good about so things don't get thrown all helter-skelter and leave me a total wreck.

This is not the same, but I just ended a 3-year relationship and my boyfriend is moving out. What a disaster these things leave behind! I would not be ready!