Lynn, it sounds like things are moving in a positive direction, since he addressed one of your main concerns and put your name on the checking account, and is now going to go to one of your sessions with you. From what you have said, he seems to be willing to do some things to help with the relationship, so maybe you can repair things with time. I have heard many friends of mine say that their first year of marriage was the very hardest, and they weren't always sure the marriage would survive. And none of them had the added stress of a child at that time. So, give your marriage a chance to heal...you may find that with a little work, you can rediscover your love for each other.

I'm going through something similar...after 10 years of living together, I was starting to feel that my partner and I had drifted irrevocably apart...we were still very good friends, but we lived completely separate lives. Well, when I sank into depression, caused partially by feeling very alone and unloved, he asked what he could do to help, and I just said that I wanted him to be here for me. Since then, he has grown more and more attentive, and I am finding that those romantic feelings I thought were gone are coming back. So, just like feelings can fade with time, they can also re-emerge.

Good luck.
mj