Hope you are feeling better....See if you or him can buy the other share of the home....I really suggest you to do that if you can....If even you can borrow some money and kick him out....He's such a loser....You are better off without him....and honesty, I don't think the other woman would leave 16 years of her relationship behind....such a people are out there....
I will pray for you to get strong and move on.....I'm sure good things will happen to you very soon my friend