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Originally Posted by lynn P.
Hi Lee,
I don't know if you're depressed because you have marriage problems or your depression is making your marriage troubled. I agree with the other posters - running away isn't the solution and will make you feel worse. The only time a person should run away, is in cases where they're being abused and it's unsafe to be there.
I am in a very difficult marriage situation for 3 and a half yrs now. When I 1st knew of the problem, I was so distraught that I almost took my 2 girls to a womens shelter. I felt I was being tormented mentallly. I'm glad I waited because this would have traumatized my daughters and put them in a poverty living situation. So my advice to you is NEVER make rash decisions when you're upset because you most certainly will regret it later.
Are you seeking treatment - on meds and getting therapy? You need to realize that meds and therapy can only help you to a certain degree. The other help needs to come straight from you. There are many things you can do on your own to make a difference in your mood. The first one is eating healthy - also take a vitamin D supplement and an Omega3 supplement or eat fish like salmon once a week. It's now known that most people are difficient in vitamin D and it plays a role in fighting depression and cancer. The next step you must take is to start exercising regularly. I know it's difficult to feel motivation but you have to DRAG yourself and get moving. Sometime during the day you need to go for a 40 min power walk preferably when it's sunny. Experts know that exercising is one of the best things you can do for depression - it actually builds new neuro-transmitters in the brain - isn't that amazing? Maybe you can convince your wife to go with you and you can both talk. This leads to the next tip which is improving communication with your wife. See how she's feeling - sometimes partners become scared when their loved ones have mental illness, so they withdraw. You both need to connect and understand each other.
Please don't run away - this won't solve your problem. I think you're overwhelmed and fearful so you think running will give you relief. It's much better to work through your situation. Don't let depression win - you need to be pro-active and fight against the depression. Best of luck. 
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"I don't know if you're depressed because you have marriage problems or your depression is making your marriage troubled. "
The above quote from you is exactly how I feel.
I am taking Omega 3 and Vitamin D supplements and I try to either walk on my treadmill or do yoga several times a week. Sometimes it is tough to do as I'd rather just stare at the TV. Sometimes I am just too tired.....
I am on remeron and have been going to therapy on and off since March.
More in a few minutes....
Thanks so much for your help...