AAAAA I had my first child when I was 17. I had both of my boys by time I was 20. Three kids at 20, and I took care of them. My mother passed when I was only 15. My dad wasn't much involved. I'm not saying what your doing is wrong. I'm just saying that it's time for her to grow up, and start being responsible. She's very lucky to have a family like yours, and yet she is taking advantage of you, and your family. Now if someone came in my house and let something get destroyed then I'm going to be upset. She is not a baby, and she knows right from wrong. If you and your husband want to raise her baby that is really wonderful. If it were me, because your worried about her taking off with the baby, then ask her if you can adopt the baby. I'm sorry for being kind of rude about the girl, but I get hot when I see kids mistreated. I really think that it is wrong how that innocent little baby is fighting for it's life, and here the mother is out doing GOD knows what.