I would really be shocked if she was doing drugs, I know she drinks from time to time but her mother was a meth and crack addict and that was one of the things that destroyed their relationship.

I don't believe that she is at all interested in having us adopt her child. She just wants us as those stand by, fill in people that when doesn't want the responsibility of being a mom, she knows that the baby will be safe and happy with us. She's 22, so it's not like she's a teen.

I think Vickie's right, she needs a dose of reality. She's always just bumped through life doing whatever it is that she wants to at the moment, never really caring about the future. When she left our house she moved in with other friends her own age. After six months there they demanded that she either contribute to the household bills or move out. She moved with another friend about 4 hours away. When that friend got tired of supporting her she moved on to the next.

When she found out she was pregnant, everyone asked her what she was going to do. She replied simply "have a kid of course". But what are you going to do? Having a child requires a permanent dwelling, some stability etc.

So the same group of friends that she lived with when she moved out of here came up with the grand plan she'd move back here since Mr. Wonderful that was all for her having a baby decided he wanted to go back to his previous relationship. Our house was briefly mentioned, but my daughter knows me well enough that that suggestion was taken off the table. I suggested that she move onto the reservation. They have extremely nice homes and she wouldn't have to worry about things like utility bills and such because it is all provided for her.

She really does have so many opportunities available to her, they would actually pay her to get her diploma. Give her parenting classes, child care, better public transportation etc.

Right now she's living in a tiny three bedroom 1970s trailer with her grandmother and father. The only steady income in the house is the granmother's SS benefits. Her father has never held down a full time job.

I do feel sorry for her knowing the only stability in her life has been with us. But my problem was/is that she hasn't taken advantage of this opportunity to make her life better, do know what I'm saying? We tried to give her a hand up, but she was only looking for a hand out. But she's an adult now and responsible for her own choices. I truly hope and pray that she pulls her head out of her butt and gets some sense of direction for the sake of her daughter.