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lynn P. · Sep 30, 2009, 09:33 AM

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Originally Posted by muffy

im so sorry for your loss. That is very hard, imo i do think your hubby should know as its effecting you . which in turn affects him. secrets are never a good thing imo
if you can talk to your dad tell him you really need to tell your hubby
my thoughts and prayers will be with you.

I'm very sorry for your loss. I agree with Muffy - that secrets like this aren't good. I don't think it's proper to sweep issues like this under the carpet. Your aunt had mental illness - this isn't something to be ashamed of. This is a shock(understandably) to you and it's natural for you to feel the need to talk about it. Sometimes suicide runs in families so it's very important to openly discuss these matters - so hopefully future generations won't do the same and instead reach out for help.

I speak from experience because my Great Grandmother killed herself and a year and a half ago my brother committed suicide. I think you should tell your husband and your therapist(since this is relevent to your mental health)

There's no doubt suicide is shocking and devastating but as families we shouldn't feel ashamed because our loved ones were sick. Talking will bring about healing and may save someone else in the family one day. It's necessary to talk about it!! Thanks for sharing your sorrow.