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Sep 30, 2009, 09:38 AM
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Member Since: Jun 2007
Location: Chicago, Illinois
Posts: 5,518
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It could be post-partum depression or even resentment. My aunt suffered from it with my cousin - back then they called it the "baby blues." When I was born, I had to stay an extra ten days in the hospital because of a heart murmur - mom never came to see me. She resented me until the day she died.
She might be taking advantage of you because she knows she's not a member of your family. Even if she's overindulged, it shows she's "different" - an outsider. As beautiful and organized as your family may be, deep down she knows she hasn't inherited any roots of strength or "family pride" from you. She knows you won't "crawl through the mud" for her, as a mother is supposed to do for her child. She knows her baby will never be the "apple of your eye."
She may appear spoiled, but it sounds like she's already had a big dose of reality. Her own family doesn't want her, and her mother committed suicide. My mother attempted suicide often and almost succeeded on numerous occasions. Even if you think you hate your mother, that act will definitely mess with a kid's head because deep down there IS love. It made me a very angry and rebellious teenager.  There are so many young people having babies out of wedlock - or getting married with no clue on what goes along with marriage or maintaining relationships. 
I hope that girl will be able to get her act together for the sake of her baby. It would be even more painful for her if that baby is taken away from her.
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