These were intense questions for me that's why I put the trigger alert on this post.
I found these questions to be interesting. They are from a paper written by Jim Hopper, Ph.D. (last revised 9/27/2008)

• "How can I recover (more) memories?"
• "How can I find someone to hypnotize me?"
• "How can I know for sure whether I was abused?"
It is natural that people ask these questions, particularly given how the popular media present these issues.

It is more helpful, however, to step back and look at the bigger picture. . .

• "Why do I want to recover (more) memories?"
• "What do I hope that recovering memories will do for me?"
• "Why do I wish I could know for sure whether I was abused?"
• "What problems and suffering in my life now do I believe will be changed by remembering abuse?"
These are extremely important questions. They go to the heart of who you are, your deepest hopes, and your current struggles. There are no right or wrong answers. The point is that, first, you need to better understand your current problems, and to clarify what you want to achieve for yourself and your life. This must come before learning about whether recovering memories might be helpful.

• Who knows, maybe recovering memories could help you. But this is not the key to healing the effects of child abuse and having a better life, and what you hope to gain by recovering memories is usually better achieved in other ways.
• Remembering how you got through painful experiences, with whatever strengths and resources you had at the time, is usually much more helpful than remembering details of abuse. This is understood by the experts on these issues, and by any therapist qualified to help people heal from painful childhoods.
  

Hi,
This is where I (DLHsSystm) am at regarding how I feel about my memories. I am supported by my therapist. Sometimes memories DO come up or I/me and my alters feel like there is something we HAVE to remember (not sure why) but most of the time I feel like I am coming to a place where what happened is not as important as what do I want to accomplish in my life today? This has been a huge shift for me. To even recognise that I can be more than my past, more than a victim is scary and huge but intensely exciting.