You are doing the right thing. I still suggest counceling.Couple, individual--whatever. You have issues, she has issues--As she goes thru her recovery, you have to work thru yours. Like I said before, You are a wonderful husband and are really doing the best you can and it all sounds like the right stuff----
having an outside listening ear, besides posting here, helps soooo much.
these are just my thoughts--you have to choose the path for yourself, as your wife needs to choose the path right for her.
Keep us posted.
I really admire your devotion to her and to your marriage.