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Originally Posted by TrespassersWill
One neuropsych I saw said they shouldn't because Aspies naturally just don't care to be around others. For me its not having as much need as normal people seem to have to need to have others around them. But also its partly that I avoid people because conversation is awkward and eye contact is awkward and when I do actually speak up I usually get laughed at or people just look back at me weird. So its like why bother? So is that truly APD?
Anyone know where I am coming from?
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Yes, I think I know where you are coming from. I avoid people because I feel awkward around them. I think I have some suggestions, but that doesn't mean I can change myself, necessarily. You say that when you speak up people look at you wierd. They won't do that, if you use your speech to ask them appropriate questions about themselves, or to compliment them on something you honestly admire about them. "Where did you get those wonderful shoes" won't bring any wierd looks if the shoes really are nice and you really like them. I don't think anyone makes eye contact all the time when they are conversing. Just now and then. To make eye contact all the time would probably be inappropriate, and you would notice that the other person would look away. Look at another part of the person's face, such as their mouth, when you converse. In the natural course of conversation, you will automatically make eye contact when it is appropriate, but it will be momentary. Caring About You ~ billieJ