Dear Phoenix ~ There probably are problems inside this man that cause him to behave as he does, but you can't make them YOUR problems. Congratulations on moving on from him. But look for clues to these types as early in your subsequent relationships as possible. Possibly you are a very independent type of person, who naturally attracts [and may be attracted TO, without realizing why] dependent types of people. Learn to discern who they are before you get too attached. Sign me "Been there, done that," billieJ