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Oct 01, 2009, 11:06 AM
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Member Since: Jul 2009
Location: Phoenix, AZ, USA
Posts: 2,779
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((((((((((((((((((( Melinda ))))))))))))))))))))))
Sorry you are going over speed bumps in your relationship. I hate when that happens.
I have lots of experience of what doesn't work so I'll share that with you.
The silent treatment. I know it is counterproductive because I used to use it a lot and it never worked. I used lots of versions of it.
Here's what I would suggest. This will sound weird at first but here goes. Agree to disagree. Right at this time, the topic of your discussion, your offhand comment about Toys-R-Us, is not that important. So, throw it into the pile of "Agree to Disagree" and forget it for now.
When you feel better and the depression isn't so bad, the two of you need to learn to talk through your disagreements more. That includes learning to openly discuss things including rating them first on degree of importance. I'm serious. If you clam up and don't talk about things, they just fester and the feelings assigned to them get bigger. Not good.
Also, decide to not have important discussions when depressed. Also not good.
I hope you feel better soon. 
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 Vickie
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