Men and women do communciate different. In my relationship when things start getting out of control than I will take myself out of the situation until we can cool off, and talk about it. There are some things that I don't like what my bf does, so I just tell him (if it's not bad) "I don't much care for it, but if it makes you happy, then have at it". When you do speak to him about your feelings say "I feel" etc, ect, ect, instead of "you make me feel". When you say the "you" word they often take it like your blaming them. If you can try and do this you will start seeing a difference in the way the two of you can work things out. When he does something for you try to show apperciation for it, even if it is something so small. If you don't they will get to the point where they won't want to do anything for you.