Dolfin...as I said in chat...it's certainly not the "healthiest" approach...but I'd still find a way to "needle" this unscrupulous man if you can do it w/out retribution....you have to suffer him in your home, when he's messing around (&supposed to be reconciling)....that deserves, at least, a little "tweek" of some sort...no matter how imature that sounds......hang in there..love grace