I agree with the other posters that he does sound depressed or he could just be too comfortable and stuck in this pattern. I support talking 'gently' to him - tell him what you need from him. Sounds like he's not getting enough exercise so get him to go on power walks with you. You mentioned he has anxiety - maybe it's social anxiety and that's why he prefers to stay at home.
I remember seeing on the news that one of the biggest turn ons a man can do - is to help their partners with chores around the house. It's so true that foreplay starts long before the actual touching - with kindness and consideration for your partner. You say you've been a little crabby - that's justifiable but unfortunately it usually doesn't solve the problem and if he complies, he won't do it happily. Try to have some honest nice conversation and express what you both need in the relationship. Explain that it's not fair it's all on you. Best of luck. 
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Last edited by lynn P.; Oct 02, 2009 at 11:30 AM.
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