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Originally Posted by lynn P.
I agree with the other posters that he does sound depressed or he could just be too comfortable and stuck in this pattern. I support talking 'gently' to him - tell him what you need from him. Sounds like he's not getting enough exercise so get him to go on pwer walks with you. You mentioned he has anxiety - maybe it's social anxiety and that's why he prefers to stay at home.
I remember seeing on the news that one of the biggest turn ons a man can do - is to help their partners with chores around the house. It's so true that foreplay starts long before the actual touching - with kindness and consideration for your partner. You say you've been a little crabby - that's justifiable but unfortunately it usually doesn't solve the problem and if he complies, he won't do it happily. Try to have some honest nice conversation and express what you both need in the relationship. Explain that it's not fair t it's all on you. Best of luck. 
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Thanks. I've printed off a bunch of psychiatrist profiles that are close to my hubby's work. We can do it together, I don't know if he prefers a male or female, older or younger (as in when they graduated).
That's funny you mention foreplay! The first "hot spot" is supposed to be the brain right? Well, he's definately not feeding my brain! His idea of forplay is running me a bath and telling me he'd "like to jump my bones". He's a little imature that way. Or a back rub, but if I ask him nicely to focus on certain spots on my back, he'll stop and complain I don't appreciate it. I'm always the one to initiate sex, at least once a week. Which is an improvement lately, since I've come off anti-depressants and birth control. Before we'd have sex maybe once a month or every 6 weeks!
This weekend is supposed to be drabby, cold and rainy. We'll have plenty of time to talk this weekend. I'm going to try my best.