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Originally Posted by PurpleFlyingMonkeys
WHY? WHY NOW? He's trying to be nice now and I don't like it! I hate it because it makes me want to change my mind but I can't! Why now? 5 years and why does he choose today to be nice? Jst 3 days before I plan to leave? UUUUUGGGGHHHH
He does this all the time! He goes through nice bits for a couple days after things have gotten really bad. But these good days don't last long. Please let me stay convinced he wont change, please let me stay convinced things wont get better and please don't let this make me change my mind because I feel bad!!!
So so terrible, one thing after the other is going wrong since I decided to leave... I need this, can't just one part about this be easy?!
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Originally Posted by PurpleFlyingMonkeys
WHY? WHY NOW? He's trying to be nice now and I don't like it! I hate it because it makes me want to change my mind but I can't! Why now? 5 years and why does he choose today to be nice? Jst 3 days before I plan to leave? UUUUUGGGGHHHH
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Control...Make You Doubt Yourself...Put The Blame On You.
PFM, there is no easy or right answer
but
there seems to be some anger along with understanding his attitude showing in this post.
Don't doubt yourself or the reasons you are doing this...
Take back your power, it's there within in you
Deflect his deadly attempt at making you the one responsible for everything.
Don't doubt yourself or lessen your resolve to protect yourself and your daughter.
Jmo/jme, but if you give in? It will go back to the way it was, you will be even more afraid to leave, and you may just end up having to take even more abuse because you tried to leave...please think twice before you hand over that power to him.
Keep posting, we are here, we care
Catherine