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Old Oct 02, 2009, 03:08 PM
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What Would You Do:
If someone broke your hand and told you "draw"!
If someone broke your legs and told you "dance!!"
I'd start by checking whether my hand or legs were really broken.
If some hinted,,between the lines..that you are a squirt, yet demanded you to accomplish things?!
Whatever I accomplished or attempted, I'd make sure to accomplish/attempt it where they weren't, perhaps not even in their area of expertise.
How would you feel?
Confused, no doubt. I'd want to find out somehow what was going on; what they were trying (not very successfully) to tell me; what, if anything, they expected me to do about it; and (I think this is pretty important) how others had dealt with the same situation.
When I run into concepts that I don't understand or don't agree with, I'm usually free to investigate further, to argue back, or to ignore them and walk away. When I was in school and my grade depended on "mastering" some concept that I didn't find true or useful, I often did those same things. My grades weren't very good but I survived.

How much would you succeed?
At what? I wouldn't want to succeed at emulating whomever I perceived as doing those things to me but I might count it as a success of sorts that I didn't emulate them. I also succeeded in getting out of academics.
How much would you TRUST the one who does it to you?!
I wouldn't; but that would raise the thorny question: do I distrust them, reasonably enough, because that is in fact what they're doing to me? Or do I perceive everything they do as mistreatment because I don't trust them in the first place? I still haven't entirely sorted out my own history with school (and may never) but for me some of each seems to have been the case.