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Originally Posted by superloner
hi vicky...
thank you so much for the reply... 
I've been thinking about what you said a lot...and i think you're absolutely right...
Because I know that when we were still together I often find myself feel that I'm not good enough,pretty enough for him, I'm too old for him..(his 7 years younger than me)...I always have this suspicious feeling that his mother doesn't like me..we come from a different social background...(even now I have myself a very good job on tv.. it doesn't make me feel 'better..in front of him') I don't deserve him...
he never cares about those things..and even he did tell me and show me that he loves me unconditionally... still those feelings stay.. 
But now, as I said earlier..we're not together anymore.. We've been in a long distance relationship for more than a year..until he broke me up because he said that our rel.ship's getting worse everyday because of the distance..so there seems to be no future in it..so he broke me up..I'm still in pain now...
Anyways..thank you again vicky....insecurity is the issue here... take care |
Relationships are tricky. When my husband (D) and I got together, I thought (for a year!) that his mom didn't like me. In actuality, she is shy and is very phobic of interfering with her children's lives. I talk to her nearly daily now. It's hard when you think someone in your romantic interest's family doesn't like you. I butt heads with my father in law a lot. I had to make it clear to him early on that while I might not be who he would have chosen for his son, his son was a grown man (at the time in his 30s, he is 8 1/2 years older than I) who makes his own decisions. My FIL didn't have to like it, but he had to respect it or butt out of our lives, including any children we had. While I respect the man since he is the father of my husband, I don't like him (if someone could get a triple PHD in manipulation, he would have it!)
I have found that jealousy stems from insecurity. D's best friend (until a year ago, but that falling out is a different story) was a woman who he had an INTIMATE relationship with years before. It took me YEARS to get over my own insecurities about her. It didn't help that she was often inappropriate towards him, but I got over it. I know who D will come home to, regardless.
Take this time to find yourself. There is much to love there, so find that love for yourself. It makes it easier to love others.
Hope this helps!
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