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Originally Posted by turquoisesea
That's a tough one.
I agree that honesty is best here.
My thought on this is that maybe you could first explain how much you love her, how much you want to be there for the wedding. How excited, etc.
Then tell her that you just can't afford it right now, due to your financial state.
Maybe you could ask her to pay for all or part/half of the expense? That way you could afford it/not have to "afford it" and this girl could still have her dream wedding. If as you say they are well off, and this means so much to her it would make sense.
I have a friend who doesn't understand money either. I don't really know what to do with her sometimes. Try your best - wishing you the best of luck.
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I would feel terrible asking for her to pay. I think she would feel uncomfortable too cause she probably doesn't want to create a dynamic where I ask her for money when I can't afford things. I kind of wish she would cause I really don't wanna miss it, but it would be unreasonable for me to ask her to do that. As it's equally unreasonable for her to expect me to go broke & live to work so I can afford this wedding & save no money for 8 months. Eh. I really wish I didn't have to miss it. I'm so upset.
I'm working on telling her now, thanks guys.....I just needed to vent cause I'm so upset!
Really, its tough not making it sound like I feel she's being insensitive to her poorer guests & pricing them out of this life changing event that means so much to them too. But, its her dream wedding. It's only about the guests insofar as she'll actually have a significant amount of guests who won't be secretly unhappy about the ridiculous expense.....Uhg. But I really do feel that way though. Money was never a problem for her, she just doesn't care how much of a problem it can be for other people in this case. God, if it were me, I would never ask my guests to go halfway around the world for my wedding. I want my guests to be happy about attending & only take on a reasonable expense. I would never make the people I love take on an outrageous expense, I want them to all be there on my special day & feel comfortable with it. :\