Melinda,
I feel like I have been where you are. I just want to try and point out a few things. First of all, your boyfriend is used to being on his own. Even if you guys have been friends for a really long time and did a LDR for a little while, he is probably still trying to get used to the idea of living with someone and always having to answer to someone. Furthermore, he's only lived with you for two weeks. I dont know how long he's been in the area, but two weeks (in this economy) isn't a long time to be on the job hunt. Right now, he's going through issues over no longer being completely independent. He now feels like he has to answer to you every day and lacking a job that would get him out of the house and fuel an independent feeling in a co-dependent setting. If I were you, I wouldn't worry about these things now. Give him some space to make his own mistakes. As long as you are financially stable, there is no need for you to add to his stress. He is an adult, and he expects to be treated like one. I know that you are probably trying to be gentle and nice and simply show concern, but sometimes the best way for someone to learn something is to find out on their own. If you can let him make his own mistakes and find his own way (however long that takes) without any harm to yourself, then I would strongly recommend to try not giving your opinion on what you think he should be doing in his life right now. Listen to AAAAA, she has a lot of great advice to offer. Try to think about everything you want to say before you say. Try to figure out if there is any way he could take it negatively. If there is, try rewording it or simply not saying it at all. Let him be his own man for awhile.

I hope none of this came off too harsh, but I, like you, am trying to offer advice on mistakes I've already made.

Best wishes,
Ro