Hey Saluki,
I dont want to be out of line with my post. If I upset you, I'm truly sorry. But I like you and reading your posts, and I tend to understand where you're coming from with a lot of things you say. I'm a little confused though. I haven't been on the boards in awhile, but when I came back, I saw a lot of posts about your boyfriend -- good and bad. And here's what confuses me, I guess. In one post, you talk about being jealous of someone else making really good food that he enjoyed. In another post you talk about him growing up. From several of those posts, it sounds like you do still want to be with him. And then this one seemed to come out of nowhere. I understand that what he is doing is really frustrating and really inconsiderate. But, you guys only recently moved in together, correct? I'm wondering if you are dealing with a lack of independence you once had from him. As if, moving in together and then promptly assuming the role of mother/wife, you kind of had a mental shock, and you're looking for a way out. And the only way you can think of to get out is to completely end the relationship? I'm not trying to be rude, I promise, just trying to figure out the root of your problem and (to me, sudden) desire to break up with him. You're probably also nearing the end of the "honeymoon" phase of your relationship so things are starting to seem monotonous. I believe talking to him (which you've done) is the best course of action right now, and maybe he'll change. Also, if you go away to grad school, and you dont want him to follow you, perhaps a long distance relationship for awhile. This may help you feel independent, but still have ties to someone you do deeply care about. To me, it seems as if you have invested a lot of time and energy into this relationship, and it's kind of disconcerting to see you just throw it all away. I'm not saying you should put up with any **** he's dishing out, but maybe stick it out for a while long and really try work on it and see if he really is willing to make a change. And hey, if you still dont want to be with him, then don't. But perhaps, give him a chance to show that he cares about you, before one of you has to go through the "I didn't know what I had until it was gone" business.

I really hope that you didn't find me offensive in anyway.
Best wishes ,
Ro