I can relate to you. I had a similar problem with trust & communication & the like with my current boyfriend. I was interested in growth & communication & change in our relationship, while he would avoid talking about simple things like his daily life for fear of being judged. Of course, this may not be your man's core problem, but the point is that you & your boyfriend should be enthusiastic & comfortable talking about anything and everything....& most of all, he should feel comfortable voluntarily offering information about whats going on in his life. If you're discovering he's failing to do that [that lovely cell phone helped me discover my boyfriend's dishonesty, too] then he's certainly hiding something. Either he is physically or emotionally cheating, or he's just afraid to tell you about things going on for one reason or another which indicates he's having trouble communicating his needs to you.....Either way, you ought to confront him & be honest about your concerns [& provide evidence of the "ethical" things that wouldn't freak him out]. If he brushes it off, keep checking out his phone, see if anything comes up, & if something blatantly suspicious comes up, then confront him about that new evidence. It may be self incriminating but it may force him to see the reality of the situation.

You two clearly need more time to develop the real life relationship more, since I'm sure the dynamic has certainly changed since it stopped being over the internet & you two got to see each other & interact in a totally different light, especially moving in together.......:\ I'm really sorry it turned out like this. It takes time to get to know people once you start to actually be "with" them in real life. :\:\:\