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Originally Posted by superloner
I have a serious jealousy issues..
I get jealous to my bf's (well..ex bf,actually) mother..little sister.. and even his cousins (girls)...
I'm not sure what's wrong with me..
I just couldn't stand it when I heard his Mom calling him "honey, sweetie, bla..bla.."
One time I read his message to his cousin on facebook saying :hey beautiful..
and I got really mad..(but I didnt tell him cuz I was too shy, realizing that it was not normal)..
I get jealous when he told me that he was talking to his little sister on the phone...he was chatting online with his cousin...
Why do I get jealous all the time to all female surrounding him??even if it's his own mother...and family???
Does anyone know the answer???
Because this feeling is really annoying..
I don't want to carry this kind of feeling for the rest of my life towards people...
PS. FYI, He's the first guy that I deeply in love with.. and it appeared to me that it's sort of like a trigger of my insane jealousy to come up...
And right now I'm on the stage where I'm trying to collect myself up since we just broke up recently...(but I guess that's another story to be discussed in another forum) which i already did..and thanks for the replies everyone..
Thank you everyone..
Anyway, I'm new here...HELLO to all of you..
superloner |
hi, i've had the same jealousy like you before, i get extremely jealous to all my gf's friends (male) and her cousins (male), basically any men near her i'll get freaked. but now i've lost all the jealousy. somehow i feel so guilty because of that, about the fight, her tears, yelling, and everything, all just beacuse im too jealous.
i think the answer of your question is because you are really deeply falling in love to that man, so you just want him to be with you always, yes its the trigger. thats what i feel towards my gf. love makes us blind. love is like a sand, the more we hold/grab it in our hands it will fell off, but if we just put the sand in our hand and keep it calm it will never go away. its just one of philosophy that i learned from my ex-boss, and it actually worked for me. i get rid my jealousy, and our relationship is much better without a fight everyday like we used to have.
i know how it feels, how we cant control our jealousy, 'not normal' jealousy, but im sure you'll find your way to get rid of that. take care