Hi Docvd,
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Originally Posted by docvd
Well on my opinion, you were dishonest to your husband, if things don t go well, in a marriage, you should work it out, instead of going off with someone else, what happen to you about your lover, look at it this way, what goes around comes around. I think when people cheat behind there partners back, have low self esteem, and no respect for themselves or there partner.
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I totally agree with this statement. I think in general... people who have affairs are attempting to fill a void that only they, themselves can fill.
I know Dotbar has said that sexual problems with her husband were the reason why she had an affair in the first place, but I think the issue goes far deeper than that. It appears to me that the deeper issue stems from a very serious lack of self esteem.
Like many women... Dotbar... IMHO... was looking to bolster her self esteem by engaging in an romantic relationship... (in Dotbar's case-- an affair outside of her marriage) when she really needs to be looking to herself to resolve her self esteem & general unhappiness with life issues.
A guy.. even if they happen to be a pefect angel... lol... is never going to be enough... if you are not happy with yourself in the first place!!
Just my $0.02.