PFM,

You have such wonderful support here from everyone......keep up your courage.....focus your mind on leaving & don't let anything get in the way of your goal. Nice acts are just that, acts.

What you are sad about is the relationship you dreamed it was going to be when you got married & it didn't turn out to be what your dream said it was going to be.....that is what you are grieving. You are grieving that he didn't turn out to be the husband you needed or expected him to be. You are grieving that reality isn't anything like your dreams & dreams are hard to let go of. But the only thing we have is reality to focus on & to drive what we need to do in our life.

The only safe place for you & your daughter is away from this man......don't allow anything to cloud the reality of your situation.

You can do this.
You can do this.
You can do this.

We are all backing you here....& will give you continual encouragement.....there isn't anything that makes people more angry is when a husband hurts his wife & daughter with unbridled anger......don't let him talk you into coming back either by promising anger management......Never go back for any promises......actions speak louder than words.

You will look back after accomplishing this move & sigh a huge sigh of relief & be proud of yourself for finding that inner strength that is takes to make this move......we can only give you encouragement.......you have to take the action.....but we are here with you all the way.

Have you ever watched the movie "Sleeping with the emeny"? It is about a woman who is abused by her husband & she fakes her death in a boating accident (after she took swimming lessons with a fear of water).....& starts a new life. The fear she had after running away was there even after she left. It's not easy.....but I have found that the right things we really need to do in life are NEVER EASY. But that doesn't mean we can't do it.


Debbie