Wow! You have all these red flags in front of you...you say that this situation is torture. You are right. It is torture. I do not think there is a person on this board who would beg to differ with me on that. I am so sorry you are having to go through this, especially with the baby and the high risk situation. I am familiar with high risk pregnancies and stress puts it at a higher risk. I also agree with you and other posters that where there is no trust, love will fail to thrive. As far as being jealous, i would say that it is a normal response in your situation. I would gather your support network together...including us here on the board and start leaning. There is one thing i thought of as i read your post, i thought about how you met him and your current source of jelousy...the txt messages, the legion of different women in the photos. These 2 things stood out...then they started to overlap. I came up with a relization...what if, not too long ago there was someone else who loved him and got jelous over a txt message to him from you? You need to find out what is really going on here and stop walking on eggshells around his privacy. When and if you decide to find out. Go back to source again...you met online...where? Is he still part of that site, similiar sites? What takes priority, his privacy or the health of you and your unborn child? I wish i could offer you more support. I am not not trying to create more doubt, just trying to offer ways for you to find out one way or another, because you deserve to know. It has been said that there is no man worth going through this kind of hurt, and the one that is, will never hurt you. Please keep posting, update us if you will. You can find a lot of healing here.