Perhaps unfortunately, I'm a very forgiving person (it can sometimes lead to being walked on or being perceived as spineless). If I were able to bring this up with T (which isn't a certainty because I'm bad at confrontation), and he owned up to this and was straight with me, I would definitely forgive him. I would also ask him to please not do it again.

It sounds like a number of people here would feel some betrayal from a lie. Thanks for that validation. ECHOES, you are so healthy and brave--you would march right in there and talk to your T about it if it happened to you. I'm not sure I will ever get to that point (with anyone, not just T).

He would have to be very confused or misinformed or something. It doesn't fit.

I would say it was in regard to himself. Sorry to be cryptic, I don't feel comfortable posting the details here.