(((sunny)))

i dont really know what the lie involves... but i think i would personally try to stay away from gathering information... just because if you really want to give T the benefit of the doubt, then maybe it is something you should wait for?

but - LOL - that is ideal world deli. real world deli = would gather as much (lopsided) info as i could, and then get into a humph and cancel our appt at the last minute.

i am someone who forgives easily. way too easily, in fact. actually, i dont even know if pdoc or Austin-T lying to me would be something i'd need to "forgive"... i think i trust that they are human and make judgement errors at times, and that they lied for whatever purpose - not to hurt me, but because they felt inadequate about handling and processing the truth with me.

i am a pretty laid back person in real life (hard to believe, hey). i dont mind if ppl lie to me, so long as they aren't doing it to hurt me or be maliciously manipulative. i think most lies are self protective, and i dont really mind if that's the case. i think i would be hurt if i saw lies as a reflection of the amount of intimacy in a relationship, but... i dont know? if ppl aren't comfortable telling me the truth for whatever reason, then i tend be sad on their behalf but also try to respect that they cannot/do not, for whatever reason, tell me the truth at that point in time.

ok. thinking about this more... i think i would still be sad (for my sake), but maybe not angry. i dont know. i'm generalising, i know. bah.