you have been given some very good advice PTSD coupled with abuse issues and trust issues makes for a hard task master - you have given her reasin in the past to mistrust so when the insecurity part oof pTSD rises it will be stronger - I am in no way saying you are doing anything wrong now

you seem to me to kind and compassionate and caring and desperate to help her - to get her through this and out the other end - well PTSD is a pain in the asteroids! it takes you from 0 to out of control in 2 seconds -

when things are going well you get that feeling that you are waiting for the other shoe to drop... its scary if you feel good - you know the bad will come back and somtimes you make it come back just cos you cant stand the waiting.....

I have seen 4 psychologists the first one was ok - but no help - the 2nd one was complete crap and probably needed a whole lot of therapy himself lol - the third was brilliant - absolutely brilliant but he wa sick and i could only see him for 8 visits cos it was under my insurance - the fourth was good but we just kept getting stopped in our tracks ....... she helped me a lot though - so luckily the 3rd one agreed to see me as a private patient and reduced his fees and he is great!!! I am so lucky to have him.

I tried healing on my own first - it didnt work - i tried it again after seeing the idiot 2nd guy but it stil didint work - i needed help and most people do and the point of that very long and boring story lol was to let you know that you ahve to find the right therapist - and if they turn out to be not the right fit - try again - you BOTH need help - you have said that yourself - please find some help - this is hard enough to get through wiht help ..... pleas dont go it alone

and talk here whenever you need to or want to - we're here to listen and help if we can - we help eachother - thats what PC is all about