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Originally Posted by billieJ
Dear doc,Congratulations on being the one to make the move OUT. Your girlfriend does NOT love herself, and she may be too dependent on multiple relationships to have an honest, monogamous one. Why did she have to stop her medications? Street drugs and alcohol will contribute significantly to her negative behaviors that you describe. I am not a good one to make suggestions, as I was once much like her. That was 19 sober years ago. But I will say, if you cannot give her up and move on, at least keep moving in the other direction, as you did when you moved out, and see if she follows. If she does, make some conditions. billieJ
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Well thanks for your replies, aprreciated very much, yes I decided to leave, not that I wanted too, I had no place to go, because I had rented my house, but did not want to continue staying at her house, I wanted to start giving her the time and space, and only got my house back 20 days later, it would have been to hard to stay there, being beside her, and can not do anything with her. She stopped her medications, for the fact, she was tired of taking them, she read a book on low self esteem, and turned on me doing a 360, do think about herself, and no one else, what will make her happy, she said she rather smoke the pot for her back than take medication, she said the pot was natural, and I don't think, she drinks everyday anymore, but I am not there, I would have to ask her daughter, I phone her daughter to stay intouch, she says her mother is ok, my ex can still function, work from 9 to 5, go out, and do other things, she has barely any friends though, just one women friend who works in the same building, they have known each other since around may, so her friend ,is starting to get to know her, and see if she can make her open up to her, and wants to ask her why does she behave like that with men, and can not keep the loved ones. My ex, also said she is on a waiting list to see the psychologist, for her past issues about her father, and maybe why she can not accept her divorce, she told me in the past about her father, and that she went to see other psychologist, one of her brothers commited suicide a couple of years back, she took it very hard, but I don t think she completely opened up to the psychologist. Anyway maybe I should just give it up, she told me in one of her emails, when she told me that I hurt her, she said since I left, she is alive, don t know if that is true though, she has other problems, she can not sell her house, and winter is coming, and now she recieved too much from her ex, and he gave her a deadline to pay it back, her friend told me she was freaking out, and does not know how to pay for the mortgage, I have not emailed, or text her since September 10th, I have smothered her enough, and probably blew all of my chances to get her back once she gets healed, and help. There are days when I feel real ******