To me, it's a somewhat major thing, and I can even think why he might have done it. But I think he may have made the wrong choice, and it is hard to accept because I have felt so close to him and I don't like that he made the choice to lie when we are so close. It's as if he thought our relationship could not tolerate the truth, and that hurts. It's as if T is saying, "sunrise, our bond isn't as strong as you think." Basically, I think he lied to cover his own b*tt and to make things easier for himself. I also think he had me in mind too, and perhaps thought what he said would be easier for me to hear. But it wasn't. It was worse. I'm a very honest person, and can be quite direct (when I'm not terrified of confrontation!), and I want that back from T, so that I'm not giving more than he is to the relationship. I don't want us to get lopsided.

Yes, it does hurt my sensibilities to even name what he did a "mistake" because without knowing his perspective, I feel like I'm being unfairly judgmental. I don't know what he was thinking. I guess he deserves to be heard so that I don't perhaps erroneously think ill of him. I'm trying not to.