Hi Imscared,

So sorry to hear about the problems with your husband. Fayer has given you the best advice possible, but I would like to just add one thing.
You say your husband says things to make you feel bad! Only 'you' can make yourself feel bad. What he says are only 'his' suggestions. I'm sure what he says hurts, but by rejecting his words, and reassuring your own confidence may help you with your feelings. Words hurt, especially from someone you love, but try to defend yourself emotionally.
Hope things turn out well for the both of you!

Sincerely,

SongBird