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Old Oct 05, 2009, 08:04 PM
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Originally Posted by phoenix7 View Post
hmm why is this happening - somthing that stands out for me is that you are starting a new school and seeing a new T - either one would be enough to trigger most people and the last one - scholol ws girls only and now you have boys too

its natural to be triggered by this - you havnt been around boys for a while and now you are - the toilet seat was up - that made your proctective part of your mind ramp up and say hey there might be men in here!!!

try and do somethig relaxing every day - listen to a meditation tape - or music or take a long hot bath or shower - go for a walk to burn off the fight or flight energy that wil build up - in time (hate that word) if you dont continually beat yourself up for not beign able to get past this - you will get past this.

I am glad you are seeing a T

take care P7

Hi P7,
Thanks for the post. I was working for three years between undergrad and grad school, so I think it is the mix of school and the guys. I just have to remember to be gentle with myself. I am riding my bike to and from school so that gives me some time to relax. I also have some other health related stuff coming up that is mixing in with this too. (not getting help when I need it). Thanks for listening.