sunny, what i've found with the fear of confrontation is that it's good to give yourself credit for doing it regardless of the outcome. unfortunately, we have no control over how the other person will respond--and are not responsible for that--so really all we can do is face our fear and do it as best as we know how. obviously, we can say things in ways that will hopefully make it easier for the person to respond well but ultimately how they respond is in their hands once we say our piece. i've had both positive and negative experiences in confronting people and i think i tend to expect that once i get the nerve up to say something the other person is just supposed to respond as i wish. that hasn't always happened even when i've said things as gently as i can imagine but i'm still working on speaking up as that is my part in my recovery.