seeker, if it were me in this situation, i'd not go...period. i know you feel an allegiance to your friend. however, she's married to the man and chooses to deal with his behavior (or maybe she doesn't ) anyhow, only you can be responsible for you emotional health. i wouldn't go. the rocks wouldn't be worth it. i'd tell her it simply wasn't an option with being in grad school, and that maybe just you and her can go somewhere when your finsihed? it will give you both something to look forward to...a girlfriend's vaca

gl. let us know.