hi

i do not believe in ''once a cheater, always a cheater''. to clarify right off the bat, i had an affair once. i was not sleeping w/my husband at the time (separate rooms, etc. ) but we were still legally married so i still DO consider it cheating.

there are many different situations in life, and in love.

we are all human beings, far from perfect. we have love, hate, passion, needs, fear, and we make mistakes.

frankly, she didn't really have to tell you this very personal and potentially negative, detail.

also - look at the short length of time you've been together. would a person say on a first date, "hi, i'm [name] and i had an affair once". . . .? um, no.

generally in all healthy relationships, the past, truths, and sometimes confessions, come out gradually - and they usually come out because trust has been built from the confessor to the confessee.

this woman obviously has been battered emotionally and physically yet she has been brave enough to trust you, because she must love you a great deal.
and she has given you one of her deepest confessions.

infidelity usually is a sign of disconnection in a relationship - or it is a personal character flaw.
seems like her ex did have major flaws. the relationship breakdown always occurs before the infidelity.

if you BOTH try to maintain a healthy relationship, fidelity will be a given. just my opinion hon and based on experience (both as someone who cheated and as someone who has been cheated on ) my best to you : ) xx