No. I did not find your message to be insensitive. It's exactly the response I would expect from anyone who had not experienced this strange life I am leading. Hence.....my isolation. I would never have understood it myself if I had heard of someone in that situation 3 years ago. I guess that I continue on for several reasons. I love him. I recognize that he is incapable of "normal" connection because of some root cause. This man feels no joy. How sad is that? I am hopeful that one day he will be able to explore the cause of his painful existance and be willing to accept help. I feel that despite the pain it is causing me, it would ultimately make me feel worse about myself to abandon or withdraw my love from someone who is doing the best he can at this time. I am obviously strong enough to do without the "normal" emotional/physical connections I should be receivning from a husband.........otherwise I would have bailed a long time ago. There are just times like this when wanting and missing those things comes to the forefront. Sigh.